How To Not Be Racist I #AskASoccerPro Show Ep 073
11-year MLS veteran Quincy Amarikwa returns for the 73rd episode of the #AskASoccerPro Show to tackle racism, what he would say to MLS Commissioner Don Garber, why influencers should do the work of anti-racism rather than just making pretty social media posts and more.
00:00 – 02:05: Welcome To The #AskASoccerPro Show
02:07 – 06:02: What Quincy Would Say To MLS Commissioner Don Garber 🤔
06:06 – 10:50: Why Continue to Fight For People Who Don’t Fight For You? 👊😤
10:58 – 13:35: Will Quincy Become A Coach? @soccer_hq_09
13:38 – 15:58: How Can Parents Help Their Kids Find The Right Organization? ⚽ @oleggrymaylo
16:04 – 22:14: Why Do Elite Players See The Game Differently From Average Players? 👁️ @yojxrdan
22:17 - 23:37: Does Working On Your Business Take Away From Focus? 🧠 @johnhollinger
23:38 - 29:16: How To Not Be Racist
29:20 - 30:51: Taylor Twellman’s Dangerous Tweet 😳
31:11 - 32:26: What Do You Think Players Like Griffin Yow And Alfonso Davies Do Differently From Other Young Players To Reach The Level They’re At? ⚽ @yojxrdan
32:31 – 36:52: How Starting At The Bottom Is An Advantage
37:17 – 45:26: How Does Quincy Mentally Challenge Himself? 👉🏽😶👈🏽 @johnhollinger
43:59 – 45:26: Why Perfect Soccer Is Free? 🤔
45:31 – 49:28: What Is Quincy’s Favorite Move To Create Space? ⚽
49:35 – 51:48: When Will Quincy And Sebastian Salazar Talk? @johnhollinger
52:00 – 56:09: How To Keep Up With A Bigger Player @sabrinaa.demarco
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Quincy Amarikwa (00:00):
We're all here to ride the MSL waves. You've mentioned the strength Lee, I'd like to welcome you to another episode of the hash tag, ask a soccer pro show. Oh, [inaudible] seen a lot of regulars joining in tuning in and down and in with that mental strength. Ooh, just spam that hard button. If you got it, if you're feeling, if you feel a froggy I'm excited for today, uh, really just jumping into it. I am your host, coinci America, 11 year MLS pro. Um, current, uh, free agent would be in my 12th year, but stir still in like free agency or due to the whole, uh, situation that we're still in the process of getting our way back to you. But, uh, fortunately the MLS has finally come to terms with the MLSP and ratified. Uh, Kevin what's going on, brother. Um, ratified the CBA, which should have been ratified originally, but I'm sure we could get into that in other ways, uh, throughout this call as well too.
Quincy Amarikwa (01:01):
Um, but the there's been an agreement of a coming back to play with the official Orlando tournament here at the end of the month. Um, so those of you who are all always of the MLS, what have your guys' thoughts been so far? Have you been following what's been going on and then more importantly, I'd say, and if you haven't let me pull up the graphic, I thought I had all the graphics already set up and ready to go, but I guess, um, it did, uh, duplicated, it did duplicate, uh, Earl Edwards jr. Joined in, uh, what's going on, man. Everybody say hello to him as well. Oh, I'm seeing, uh, a keyboard is also joined in. Thanks for joining guys. I appreciate that. Like I said, everybody, if you join in every Thursday, 6:00 PM, PST 9:00 PM EST, not only do you get to ask your questions, um, of an 11 year plus MLS pro, but you'll also see other pros in the comment section, join it in answering you guys this question, uh, joining in on the community and sharing their, their knowledge with you.
Quincy Amarikwa (02:06):
So let's see what we got here. So what I was, there we go. So let's switch that up. There we go. So for those of you who, who are not aware have not read the article that I published over on perfect soccer skills.com. Um, I, I did that a couple of days ago. I realized a lot of individuals who are casual fans of the MLS, or are wanting to become more involved in the MLS CDM, less grow, or just more, more so see soccer in America grow not necessarily just a Melissa. Um, the article that I published over on perfect separate skills.com title, what I would say to Don Garber and the MLS player pool, if I were still considered a part of the MLS, uh, consider this a, the extreme crash course in understanding the perspective of the league and Don Garber and the, uh, who is the commissioner of the MLS and the, the general perspective of the pool and the wide degree of diversity amongst the player pool and, uh, how that relationship has unfolded over time, as well as the, uh, difficulties in finding common ground in the balance in terms of that entire negotiation process, which is the collective bargaining agreement, which is the CBA for those of you who are not aware.
Quincy Amarikwa (03:23):
Um, I think on top of that as well too, there's there's microcosms of the player pool. And, um, I think the overall representation of the Blair pool has been fragmented as well in its own ways. And I think with the current state of the world and what's going on, I believe people are finally becoming more aware of the systemic issues that are, that are prevalent, um, just in the world. Uh, and, uh, in this case specifically within the soccer world itself, I think there's a lot of limitations because of the pay to play system and how that creates and breeds its own, um, longterm problems. But as you guys know, we're over here developing that longterm winners mindset and the MSL mentality, the mental strength league mentality is one that helps you operate, whether you are all regardless of whichever side you're on, which means it's meant to help everybody consider it, think of it like, um, a mental, mental software update for the new world.
Quincy Amarikwa (04:30):
Everyone says we're a part of the information age. They recognize a realize we were part of the information age, but what does that mean and how do you operate it and how do you thrive and survive in it? Well, those of you who are a part and have been down with the MSL for awhile, you guys understand what we stand for, what we represent. You've watched listened to the three S's of self-awareness talk, um, perfect soccer skills.com/sss. If you're listening, you don't know what I'm referencing or talking about. And you understand that personal responsibility is, is something that in our belief will only become exponentially more valuable as time goes on with kind of how the world is adapting to understanding the changes that have taken place. So we have to throw it back a little bit with the little United States of America. T-shirt shout out Matt, Matt Watson, the originator, uh, original designer on the perfect soccer brand.
Quincy Amarikwa (05:30):
Uh, but, uh, if anybody's had a chance to read the article that I'm sharing, you'll see the graphic here on the screen. For those of you who are listening on the podcast, I've got the graphic up on the screen for the article. I'd love to see you guys drop a little bit of that below. And, uh, we'll just, we'll just really start getting into it. I think a couple of pros might be dropping in, um, throughout the call. So if, and when they do, we'll get them, we'll get them in here. But while we're waiting on that, let's, uh, let's make sure we're asking some questions.
Quincy Amarikwa (06:05):
So let's see what we got here. Um, MLS stopped the rebel ass. Why do you put yourself through all of this and what wants you, what makes you want to continue it? That is a great question. And that is a question I ask myself all the time and, um, I guess the simplest way I can, I can put it is when I got started playing professional soccer and the way that I was looking at it, I didn't understand why guys did not understand me. And, um, I wanted to understand why, and if anybody has a personal relationship with me or has had any type of personal experience with me in the past, um, I don't think it's a far stretch to say that I'm probably a pretty competitive person and I want to win. And by
Quincy Amarikwa (06:57):
okay
Quincy Amarikwa (06:57):
by saying, I want to win. What I mean is I want to understand, and if I don't understand something, I want to do any amount of work necessary to figure out and understand why I don't understand. And, um, that drive that focus, um, is what I refer back to as to why I put myself through all this, uh, because I want to figure out and understand, am I putting myself through it or someone else putting me through it for me? And, uh, not sure if those of you on the call understand that question or have gotten to that space in time and that experience, but that curiosity of wanting to know is I'd say that's gotta be a large driving factor because at the end of the day, I don't know what will result of it. And I think a lot of people believe I'm only doing it for a particular outcome that will benefit me, or because there's something I want specifically, um, in terms of like material or monetary, I believe those things will come as a result of providing a good service, a product or, you know, um, to, to people.
Quincy Amarikwa (08:22):
So it's not that I don't believe that those things won't happen or I'm not doing it without the idea or thought that they could. But if I'm, if I'm directly saying, what is it that I'm hoping to accomplish or have be the result of this? And it's really, it's really saying I've been a strong believer and advocate, I guess, for not being put into a box. I don't want someone to define for me what I am or am not capable of doing because of who they believe me to be, what they think I have or haven't done in the past or how they perceive me. And I think, uh, tying that to the greater issue, that's finally being discussed a lot more here, um, with, with relation to a race. I think a lot of people are, are much more open to the idea of having this conversation, uh, mainly cause I think people have gotten to a point where they can no longer deny
Quincy Amarikwa (09:24):
the,
Quincy Amarikwa (09:26):
the unfair nature in which certain things are or have, or are taking place. So, um, I think that's kind of a good tie into kind of a throwback to episode 48 of the hashtag SSI brochure when we discussed and covered, um, dealing with racism, different ways in which we, uh, I know many individuals in the community have experienced that in their own way. I know others have been a part of organizations where they've seen it happen firsthand. And I, I think I'm getting a lot more questions and, uh, questions, especially from some of my, uh, my white friends and followers as to what they can do and how they can help and, and more so seeing a lot of individuals now expressing on their platforms, that they've seen a lot of these things over time and they've been complicit in their silence and dismissive of it for whatever reason. And I think you guys know, we talk a lot about it here. The truth is true, whether you believe it or not. And, and in the MSL, we remain committed to, uh, committed to doing the work we know we need to, or we believe we need to, to, to understand so good question. I, I appreciated that, uh, Joe said yes, I remember that. Uh, I remember that one,
Quincy Amarikwa (10:52):
uh, soccer, HQ, uh, soccer underscore HQ underscore and asked, will you help the little kids reach pro by being a coach? I believe I'm helping, uh, helping kids who want to be pro or, or, you know, older individuals who were interested in being pro right now through this online coaching, online mentorship, um, uh, breaking down the MSL mentality, the AmeriCorps process, the three S's of self awareness and sharing it with you guys here free on the platform every Thursday, 6:00 PM, PST 9:00 PM EST and answering your questions. Uh, Connor McCormick, uh, con uh, Connor MC 42, say Quincy for president. Hey, you never know maybe one, one day. You know what I mean? If, if the people demand it, let's see. I love seeing everybody in the comment section joint in a victim Hernandez, shout out Victor. He joined in, uh, PG sports. Paul, uh, is down in, uh, I'm not sure Ryan, if I, if I had shoved you out or not, Ryan B pro general manager, Ryan mashes in there answer you guys' questions as well to you.
Quincy Amarikwa (12:03):
Uh, Heather asked Quincy, what is your favorite? Perfect soccer shirt, hats, et cetera. Ooh, that's a good question. I like, I like the, like the I'm in your head now I'm in your head pattern. We're just kind of going all the way down, but it's like Stripe. So like from far, it looks like kind of a Stripe shirt, but then as you get closer, you can see that I like that on a lot. I like, obviously I like this hat. You guys have been noticing me rocking this hat a lot. And these last, I don't know, five or five plus episodes. Um, the new updated ball is pretty dope. Um, uh, Heather also, what's your favorite perfect soccer shirt. Oh sir. It was the same question. Sorry. I scrolled up and, and saw that. Um, yeah, the new match ball. I had one in here. Uh, but that one's, that one's dope. I liked that one a lot. Uh, Griffin yell joined in, shout out Griffin. Thanks for joining your brother. Love seeing you, uh, support and show love. Well, let's see what we got here. So we got a fan calling in. Let's see how we do this
Quincy Amarikwa (13:20):
here. I'll let you call in, get your question answered. Uh, uh, I don't know what half the time you guys try to call in, and then you, once you get the call, you duck out. I don't know. I being kind of scared.
Quincy Amarikwa (13:38):
Let's see what we got here. Um, O L E G G R Y M a Y L O S. My son is 12 years old, trains five times a week. Very good at center forward. How do I get him to the right? I didn't continue, but I'm going to assume you're saying get them to the right organization and the right situation. Um, first I'd say, make sure he treats himself a perfect soccer team membership account by hand over the perfect soccer skills that Tom says, P S T M a create yourself a free account, um, and go through the, go through and read the perfect soccer player, blueprint that book in the training center, then read the college soccer recruiting blueprint as well too. So I don't know how to get them to the right college, the right, whatever, uh, understanding the entire recruitment process at the collegiate level high school level.
Quincy Amarikwa (14:32):
And then also the professional ranks is important. That way you can understand where you have an advantage or where you have disadvantages and you can attack it the appropriate way. I think the fact that you're joining in on the live, you're sending in your questions and you're asking how to go about doing it is a great first step is great start, but understanding the process in an entire, Oh, there you go. So perfect soccer player blueprint. You can get yourself a free physical copy. We've just recently updated the book as well to you, the physical copy of the book. This is obviously one of the older versions and you can see. Yeah. So as you guys can tell, as I learn and grow, as we learn and grow, we take notes, document our experiences, update, update what we're doing and how we're going about doing it, and, um, uh, reflect those changes in the book as time goes on. So when you create your purpose as a team membership, um, access, you're also getting access to all the updates that we're doing in the future as well, too. So, uh, for those of you who have a perfect soccer team membership account drop down in the comment section, what you've gotten, gotten out of your membership, what you've enjoyed, uh, what you've liked also, what you don't like about it. Cause you guys know feedback. We need that feedback.
Quincy Amarikwa (15:49):
Everyone spamming that heart button love and seeing that, uh, and we'll go through, we'll see in questions and we'll see if any of you are also wanting to call in while we're at it. Let's see Jordan asks, can you talk on what you replay your players, see the game different from average players? Yeah. So let's set context. Let's set context.
Quincy Amarikwa (16:20):
How do I break this down? Um, simply, can you talk on why elite players see the game different than average players and below average players? So let's say in general, when you show up into new space to do anything new, something you've never done before you make the mistake, because you have no real frame of reference of trying to pay attention to everything all at one time. So you get information overload, it's just everything all at once you think everything's important. And because you think everything's important, you're splitting up your mental energy and your mental capacity on everything. And I don't know if I've shared this before, directly on the show, but I've, I've talked about it with players in the past, but expertise, in my opinion is knowing what not to do, not what to do. So let me say that again, expertise is knowing what not to do,
Quincy Amarikwa (17:16):
not necessarily what to do. So let's really break it down. Let's say, when you walk into something new, let's say there's a hundred things that you could do at once. That's the information overload when you're a novice, when you're a lower level player, there's a hundred things you're trying to pay attention to all 100. At one time, when you're an average player, you realize you can ignore 50% of everything. When you're above average player, you realize you can ignore 75% when you're a higher level player, you can realize you can ignore 90%. And when you're in elite level player or elite level, elite, elite level, you know, you can ignore 99%. So if you're breaking it down in that manner, the elite top level individual knows that if they focus on this one thing, everything else becomes easier as a result of it. And they can now rather than, uh, disperse the 99% of their energy on all the other things that aren't as important, they focus in on the one thing that is most important and that's difficult for people to most people are focusing on more than one thing.
Quincy Amarikwa (18:29):
At one particular time, you're walking into situations. Are you looking for the one thing that you can, are you trying to break something down into the one thing that's most accurate and then committing your time, effort and energy there? Or are you, are you spreading yourself very thin because you think multitasking and doing everything yourself and doing everything at once is, uh, the best way to go about doing it. And, um, I'm not saying that I'm not, I'm an individual who likes to do a lot of things and you guys can tell and see on the account. I'm probably doing too many things at one time. You know what, I'm Tommy Thompson joined in on the live as well to drop it in and see what's going on. Uh, so,
Quincy Amarikwa (19:14):
uh, my, my main point is the elite elite level players, individuals understand that. And they had come to the decision early on in their process of committing to that one thing. Now it doesn't mean it will pan out and then it will work out for them, but you're in greatly increasing the chances that it does. The sooner you make that commitment and the longer you remain committed to it for. So, um, a great example of why my focus is mentality mindset. I might not be as technically gifted as my teammates around me. I might not be as, um, athletic or fast or as fit,
Quincy Amarikwa (19:59):
but I believe mentally I am on a level that most, if not all other players cannot operate on. And I believe that because of that focus for as long as I've been focused on it for all the other things though, I believe I get exponential results out of it. My focus on the mentality and the fact that I decided to focus in on that. So early on in my career, um, I took the risk of thinking that applying my energy and focus there will yield me a greater result than applying my focus on what I believe most players spent all their time on, which is just the physical aspect of the game. So that's a great, and if you guys are picking up what I'm putting down, drop some I'm in your head emojis in the, in the screen, let me know your thoughts on, uh, on that.
Quincy Amarikwa (20:58):
And let's see what else we've got in here. And something else that I wanted to bring up, Heather said interesting. And what are you guys' thoughts or feedback on that kind of that breakdown? Uh, good question that came in J a J M C a Z, a L E Z, gave the thumbs up, Heather dropped a nine and he had emojis twice 11. That T T gave me the silly I'm in your head. Emojis. Tina take four. I mean, you had emojis Aquin. I keep wards even in, in here dropping that here and what we're talking about cozy. Uh, yeah, so that's a great question. And hopefully that broke that down a little bit. So let's see what we also got over here. Cause I was thinking this, so we're wanting to, I'm liking, I realized, you know what, everybody, there's a lot of, uh, stuff going on. I see a lot of things online in the comment sections and stuff. And I I'm realizing now I can share that here with you guys on the show, showing you guys the graphics and stuff, shout out to it or for making the, uh, the dope mean.
Quincy Amarikwa (22:15):
And there's a couple of things that I wanted to point out. Okay. So, which was interesting to me, especially something that Taylor 12 minute had said on Twitter earlier this week, um, K 23 Hampton said I got the recommendation from Quincy and his financial literacy newsletter. I'm happy to see that you're going through that. Um, and, and upleveling your financial literacy literalist. [inaudible] your literacy skills. I know John Hollinger is going through it as well, too. Um, soccer HQ. Oh nine. So the season goes on. Yes. You know it does. So Jackson said never really heard it like that before, but makes a lot of sense. If you are able to focus on less things, you can hone in on them and master those areas.
Quincy Amarikwa (23:06):
Okay.
Quincy Amarikwa (23:06):
23 Hampton said 100% agree. It's an amazing read. John Hollinger said good stuff. So what would working? Um, so while we're working on your own business, take away of your focus. Okay. John said, okay, here you go. This is a good one. So John had said good stuff. So what would working on your own business take away of your focus then? Well, if my, if my business is in alignment with my focus on mindset, when I'm working on my business, I'm working on my mindset. So we talk a lot here about the AmeriCorps process that is in the first three steps of the miracle processes, the three S's of self awareness, self honesty, self initiative, self accountability, uh, goal oriented. So setting goals, teamwork, community, that's you guys here, teamwork equals dream work, attention to details, which is remaining focused on, uh, uh, on what got us here and how we're going to get there.
Quincy Amarikwa (24:01):
And then the ultimate one passion or fun enjoyment loving what it is that we do. And, and at the very, at the end of the day, if we're focused on pursuing our passion, if we don't reach a super high level or are successful in the eyes of others, we enjoyed the process we learned from it. We grew from it. So there's no way that we can lose. That's why you guys see you can't stop us. And the same mental strength lead. We are in your head because we can't lose. We're focused on our passion. We're building a community, we're working together, we're collaborating, we're filling, we're setting goals. We're working together as a team, but more importantly, we're taking personal responsibility for our future, for our, our individual and collective goals. So, so that's a mindset. That's a mentality. That's, that's a belief system. That's something you either are on board with, or you're not, you're committed to, or you're not you're doing the work or you're not, you can say you're doing the work, but that, but if you're not backing it up at doing the work, it doesn't mean anything.
Quincy Amarikwa (25:00):
And I, I believe that that's, uh, that's something that I want to especially highlight to individuals who have come to the decision that they haven't done enough in the past, or they haven't been active or vocal, or they haven't called things out that they know to be wrong. Um, but now they realize the air in their way and that's necessary in the process. You have to make mistakes or you have to do things to then be able to self reflect on them in the future and come to the conclusion on whether that was the right course of action or if it was a mistake. And if you're deciding that what you have been doing up to this point or what you haven't been doing up to this point has been alignment with how, who you want to be moving forward, who you see yourself as when you look in the mirror or, uh, you realize you've been lying to yourself as to who you are and what it is that you do or you're willing to do.
Quincy Amarikwa (25:49):
And you've made a commitment to being different, to doing more. Then it's not a commitment that is just said by doing a social media post, Oh, I posted I'm changed. I'm doing this. I'm doing that. No, it's, it's doing the post. And then posting what you're committed to doing here, moving forward, and then taking action to remain committed to it here, moving forward. So specifically, let me get very specific because many people say, well, what do you mean? I'm saying, if you believe that you have not been doing enough in the past, well, one, you need to make up for the work that you didn't do. So there's that work that you need to do. Then there's the work that you need to do here moving forward, which means it's more than what you've done. So you have work that you have to get done and the work you're going to do here really being forward, and you have to remain committed to that here, moving forward.
Quincy Amarikwa (26:42):
So if you've that, um, for instance, you need to, um, I've seen a lot of individuals saying that they'd been silent as to, uh, not calling out racism or discrimination when they've seen it or, or, um, and that they're there supporting of the black lives matter movement, or just more so, uh, hearing black people's experiences and not denying their experiences any longer than that's not something that just lasts for a week. That's not just something that comes to one social media post. If you're saying that you want to do different and you commit to doing different, then you're doing the one social media posts. And you're committing to doing an additional social media posts every day for the next six months, just to make up for what you didn't do up to this point. And then after you've done that for six months, you'll then have enough experience having listened for the first time ever to people who might not look like you or sound like you were having a different perspective or experience in yours to then come to a conclusion as to what you will like to do next or what you'd like to commit to next.
Quincy Amarikwa (27:46):
But I definitely want to make sure I'm, uh, calling up the individuals who were saying they're there, they're about that action. They're about change. They're about doing whatever's necessary. Especially these individuals who have these platforms have been speaking a bunch of nonsense for time, which has been the reason why the system has been created in the way that it has, which is why, which is what has not allowed individuals to have access to the opportunities that every a chance of having an opportunity for. Um, then if you're gonna not committed to doing that, just say, you're not, we don't need to hear your fake messages anymore. People have woken up. People understand that, uh, messages with no action behind it, no commitment, no consistency over time. You don't just show up today. You show up tomorrow and the next day and two weeks from now and a month from now.
Quincy Amarikwa (28:44):
And even if people still don't believe you yet, you show up three months from now, six months from now. It's commitment. It's not commitment. Only if things go my way and it's perfect for me. And it's just how I want it to be. And it looks how I want it to look. No it's commitment. You're either committed or you're not. And if you're not that's okay, but not, if you say you are, and then you aren't, that's the problem, self accountability. That's, what's been lacking in the MLS system. That's, what's been lacking in the broader system because people haven't seen what self-accountability looks like because the individuals who do have these platforms who are speaking regularly, educating the audience on a daily basis, whether they believe it, no they are, are, or aren't or not admitting when they're wrong expressing and showing how they've been wrong in the past.
Quincy Amarikwa (29:42):
And they're not doing the work to make up for the ways in which they're wrong. They're not listening to anybody other than themselves. And when you listen to your own BS for long enough, Hey, was it Scarface? Tony said, don't get high on your own supply. It'll be your downfall. But yeah, that was a, that was just how I'm seeing it. You know, one man's perspective. I'm happy to have conversations and dialogues with dialogue with individuals about their perspective and see how I may be wrong. What I might not fully understand so that I can be better because that's the goal to improve.
Quincy Amarikwa (30:37):
Mmm
Quincy Amarikwa (30:37):
let's see. So I think I'd put it up here on the screen of what Taylor Taylor had said. He'd said, um, as I've stayed on ESPN radio and sports center for the lap, let's see if I can flip it. Cause now it's two there, as I've said on ESP radio and sports center for the last eight weeks, a global pandemic means change and compromise for everyone. But as pro athletes and owners, if you make it about future pay and, uh, play and pay, you will lose your paying customers because they don't have the time. Yeah, that's interesting. Um, that's just a very interesting perspective for him to share at this particular time, because the only thing that people have at this moment in time is time. Um, so, uh, I had responded, so I'd be happy to discuss this with him because I want to better understand where he's coming from.
Quincy Amarikwa (31:36):
And, uh, yeah, you guys should be able to see around Twitter, the things too small. And I don't have my secondary, my secondary, well, maybe I could compete in here because yeah, I guess I know I'm seeing half this stuff that individuals are saying. And a lot of people aren't necessarily able to keep up on all the moving parts and what's happening all the time, which is why we, um, took the time to write that, that first, um, that first article. So if you guys haven't read that article, definitely read that article, share it with, uh, friends and family, uh, especially individuals who are interested in maybe learning more about the league or the, the soccer system in general, but let's see what here.
Quincy Amarikwa (32:38):
Yeah. Let's see what else we've got here in terms of, okay, so Jordan, yo, yo, Y O J X, R D a N asks, what do you think of players like Griffin and Alfonso Davies do differently from other young players to reach the level they're at? What do they do differently? Well, I can't speak to Alfonso Davies cause I don't know him personally. I don't have any personal experience with him. Um, but with Griffin, I think Griffin is a very talented player and he is open to, to learning. He's open to the idea that he could be wrong and doesn't know everything, which is a valuable skill to have one that allows you the opportunity and ability to, to improve. Um, I think a huge advantage that Griffin has is, um, I haven't yet met his parents personally, but I, I can tell that he has a very strong support system at home.
Quincy Amarikwa (33:34):
He has a family that is, uh, very much behind him and I believe he says he has an older brother who plays as well, too. Um, uh, for me, it's, uh, for me it seems like Griffin has a very strong support system that has been dedicated to helping him maximize his potential. And then on top of that, Griffin also has an open mentality and mindset and a willingness to put in the work and get better. So I believe not everyone might, not, everyone may have access to the support system or a support system to help them, um, get to whatever level that they're choosing to, but everyone does have the potential to have that open-minded, um, uh, mindset, uh, uh, willingness and hunger and thirst to learn and get better and, uh, the willingness on their own to improve their skills over time. And we've discussed this in previous episodes where I've discussed and said that your, uh, your disadvantage becomes your advantage in a longterm in the longterm and the less you have starting out, if you're able to, the less you have starting out, the greater advantage you have in the long run, the longer you learn to hang around and stick around.
Quincy Amarikwa (34:54):
So I think a lot of people, a lot of players look at not having access to certain things or not having the support system or the advantages that other people around them may have as a reason to not try or a reason for it to yeah. Or for reasons to not try. Um, but the lower you start, the less you have, the greater appreciation you'll have as time goes on and the greater advantage it will become for you in the future. Cause you'll re you'll always remember where you started yours, remember where you start. And if you started at the bottom, you know what the bottom is, you know what that looks like your Bain, right? You're you were born in the darkness molded by it. And it seems like that's the theme, these last couple of weeks, right. Embrace that, embrace your disadvantages. See those, see those as a, as an armor, as, as an advantage, as, as something that gives you the opportunity to be stronger.
Quincy Amarikwa (36:05):
But, um,
Quincy Amarikwa (36:08):
uh, O L E G G Y a O L E G G R Y M a Y L O S. Um, how did you go pro? Um, I broke, I actually broke down how I went pro if you go over to perfect soccer skills.com and you type in the search bar at the top there, um, how I went from thinking, I never play soccer again to becoming a professional soccer player. I I've written an entire article breaking down that process of how I went pro, which is, um, which will get you that full summary. And I like to make sure we're fully taking advantage of the time that we have in the call. So I'm not re bringing all that up. Chris had joined in the live, showed some love what's going on, brother? How are you doing thanks for stopping by seeing what's going on on this side. Let's see what we've got as well here. Uh, Chris was just recent on the most. Was it the most recent episode of the perfect soccer podcast? So make sure you guys check that out over on perfect soccer skills.com. You also can subscribe to perfect cyber skills.com/radio and listen to his path to the pro level.
Quincy Amarikwa (37:24):
Let's see. Oh man. I thought this was interesting as well to you over in the comment section I'm enjoying seeing you guys over in the comment section is participating in the comments, section, sharing your thoughts, sharing your feedback. Um, and it's especially over on Twitter, trying to be a little bit more active on Twitter. It makes it a bit easier for me to you.
Quincy Amarikwa (37:45):
Mmm.
Quincy Amarikwa (37:46):
Continue to engage with you guys, answer your questions, get information over to you. So please continue doing so, but yet, Hey, Jalen, joining in, well, you said you, the goat clemency, a black King with the, with the I crown loving that. Thank you very much, brother. I appreciate that. Um, I'm looking forward to a lot of the things that we write working on here to bring players together to better be heard and understood and, and, uh, more fairly represented.
Quincy Amarikwa (38:30):
Let's see
Quincy Amarikwa (38:31):
questions here. We got, as you guys got more questions dropping them in there. Okay. Let's see what we've got here. And we've got about 20 plus minutes, 20 couple of like 23 minutes here, left before. Uh, that's a wrap for the show. If any of you guys are trying to call in with some questions, uh, also leaving that open to some of you pros that are in the live as well too. If you guys want to hop in for two or three minutes, ask a question, share what's going on on your side of the world. Love to have you guys drop in, but while I'm waiting on any of those potential calls to come in, John Hollinger had asked examples of mentally challenging things you do deliberately to prepare yourself. Ooh, so it's a good one. So I shared this a lot in the past that
Quincy Amarikwa (39:32):
yeah,
Quincy Amarikwa (39:33):
if you can't argue the counter narrative or a counter perspective to your opinion or how you feel about something, I don't believe you spent enough time thinking about it yet. So, uh, to be willing to be so adamant about sharing it with others. So I spend a lot of my time trying to tear down my own ideas, my own thoughts, my own systems, um, because I want to be able to, I want to be able to have the ability to see the flaws in my own thinking, see the, see the hypocrisy of my own,
Quincy Amarikwa (40:13):
my own philosophy is my own modes of operating yeah. Modes of operating so that I can come to a conclusion and decision if that's what I believe in. And I'm committed to, um, I'm committed to for the longterm in terms of, I want to be able to look back just as I am able to now at where I started and know that I've made a lot of mistakes. I didn't know everything when I started out, but I'm, but my intention was in the right place. My intent was the right place and I remained committed to that intent. And I can now looking back at that acknowledge the ways in which I was wrong, acknowledged the ways in which I could be misunderstood and, and better refine my, my systems, my processes, my mean my mode of thinking and how I operate here moving forward. So, um, sometimes knowingly, consciously miss I'm unconsciously, making it difficult on myself, tying it to what we talked about when we broke down new experiences in the beginning.
Quincy Amarikwa (41:25):
Um, and to be more specific. So I had to talk my way through it, so I could better describe it to you guys, so you can better understand where I'm coming. So, uh, exam a specific hard example of how, um, I make, uh, mentally challenged. Uh, I make something more mentally challenging deliberately to prepare myself as I show up to a new environment, a new system, a new team, a new organization, and approach it as if I'm a rookie. And I take in all 100 of the information. So we just talked about this. Um, there are things to be seen. You take in a hundred at the elite level, you find you're focused on the one thing. Every time I show up, I deliberately make it so that I'm taking in a hundred. I overwhelmed myself. I try to consume all information all at one time, the same way in which you would, when you're, when you're showing up as a rookie.
Quincy Amarikwa (42:17):
Now in the short term, you are the dumbest person in the room. You're an idiot. You don't know what's going on, but over time, I've refined my system and process to get me through from the hundred down to the 50, down to the 25 to the 10 to the one. So I'm deliberately and purposely putting myself in the situation on a hundred. And I'm using the AmeriCorps process. The process that I share with you guys, the three S's of self awareness and the remaining steps of the process to then quickly go from I'm taking in all 100, I'm unbiased, as best as I possibly can be. I'm completely ignorant as to what's going on. And I'm willing to assume that I'm wrong about everything, a hundred boom through my process and system. How quickly can I crunch that data? That information compartmentalize it, categorize it, sift through it, organize it, break it down into 50.
Quincy Amarikwa (43:13):
Okay, great. I'm back in again. 50, break that down, compartmentalize it. 25, break that down, compartmentalize it. 10, break that down even more one. Okay. One. That's the most important thing. So I'm going in reverse as opposed to, I believe when most people believe they know something and understand something, they've got it down to that one. They believe they know everything. So when they go into a new environment, they immediately point to, or focus on that one thing in this brand new environment, but they may be unaware that, that one thing isn't the most important thing here. So my one thing was refining a process that gets me to the one thing as quickly as possible. And as I gained more experience with that, I can get, I can sit through everything and get to the one thing more quickly, so I can continue to go into new environments and new situations and new yeah. Experiences and take them in
Quincy Amarikwa (44:10):
Mmm.
Quincy Amarikwa (44:11):
With as little bias as I possibly can. Now that there's still all there is still bias in that process. But the part of the process is to, to check my bias along the way, and to self reflect it, to acknowledge my bias, um, um, account for them and then adjust and learn and grow. And that's my process and that's what I do. And that's how I've been doing it for years and years and years. And, um,
Quincy Amarikwa (44:42):
yeah.
Quincy Amarikwa (44:44):
Great question, John, because most, I haven't been able to talk through that part of the process, cause I'm not sure what I would name that quite yet. Terry information. This is basically what these organizations come to in terms of their systems and processes. And then they brand them or they patent them and uh, you know, uh, I believe great ideas should be shared. And the execution of ideas is the most difficult part of the process. I believe what I've learned in how I've learned it and how I've earned the lessons of learning. It is valuable. And I'm, I'm happy to share that with those of you who join in on the show.
Quincy Amarikwa (45:27):
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Quincy Amarikwa (45:30):
I don't, I don't believe that it should be a requirement that you pay for it. I believe that if you see the value in something, you should pay for it. Um, but it doesn't mean everyone has the currently has the money to pay for it. So there's the free financial literacy courses. What to you, so you could develop those skill sets on your own, um, maybe start your own business, generate revenue or money, and then in the future when you can pay and you believe that what we I've been sharing and been teaching has been a value to you. You can compensate me in some capacity in the future. That's why on the perfect soccer platform. There's always a path to paying now, which may, which at the end of the day saves you time or you work for yourself to earn whatever it is you were in search of her or wanting for free. So I think those of you who have already created a perfect soccer team membership accounts have already gone through that process where you can go through, you can pay obviously for access to our platform or you can, uh, for yourself to get access for free. So there's no excuse. And there is no, um, there is no barrier to entry other than the work you are or are not willing to do for yourself. And that's what it should be. Um, cause ms is meritocracy, right?
Quincy Amarikwa (46:53):
Mmm
Quincy Amarikwa (46:56):
that's fair. That's equality. Um, let's see what we've got here. So we've got 10 more minutes and okay. We've got a lot of questions that have come in. Let's see what we got here. There we go. Um, Ryan, Ryan, uh, Ryan is a perfect soccer skills.com/login accounts slash login account. Uh, that will give you the opportunity to take the path that you want to choose. Now, since I've updated that system, Ryan, I had not let you know about that yet. So no worries bro. But speaking about Ryan, uh, Ryan had asked, what is your favorite move to create space for a shot on goal Peyton? Uh, my favorite, my favorite is just, uh, is just simple. Uh, the faint. So, uh, step paint. So coming across the body so that the player has to lean with you. As soon as they lean, then you come and you come from the com uh, from outside the ball outside shot, all you need is happy yard for a shot. Think, uh, too many players are trying to create the perfect any of the perfect shot create too much space. You're just wanting to have a separation of time to get your shot off. I think a player who's really great at doing that is a Bradley right Phillips. If you guys, um, you guys have a chance to make sure you go check out some of his highlight videos and watch how simple move, how simple his movements are, um, and how quickly he can get a shot off in tight spaces.
Quincy Amarikwa (48:49):
Many of his goals aren't even in the army, in the corner or anything. And you might wonder like how is he, he's not even placing it in the corner, but it's getting it's being scored is because when you create that separation and get the shot off quickly, uh, players are still like in their sequence, in their typical sequence. Cause they're used to players, you know, winding up and taking time and showcasing and highlighting what they're doing and where they're going, um, that you can catch them off guard. So he's able and capable of slotting him in the corner if he needs to, but only if he needs to, um, Montrell impact me and said, who remembers, uh, rather right. Phillips iconic belly for his 100th goal versus a belly celly celebration, uh, against, uh, uh, DC. Yeah, I think he scored a hundred goal against DC United, um, and took off his shirt and had the 100 on the back. Uh, let's see.
Quincy Amarikwa (49:51):
But yeah, yeah, no, I'm, um, I'm loving today and I'm loving seeing everybody who's, who's joined in and, and the questions that are coming in and everybody, the questions are starting to get high level. I'm happy to see it. A lot of the, a lot of the questions I can tell that are coming in or are coming in from community members who have created themselves a perfect soccer team, membership account have been, have read the book, read the other books. Some of our, uh, our training videos have been going through the training center, reading the articles on the website and just improving in increasing their mental, excuse me, their mental strength in their soccer IQ. I mean, we're seeing everybody spam that hard button down there and, uh,
Quincy Amarikwa (50:50):
yeah,
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we have that hard, but everybody let me see, let me see that, uh, that energy, keep that energy up as we round into the last five minutes of the show here. Um, Oh, there we go. John, haul your ass winter. When are you in Sebastian salads are going to have a talk with and Gomez as a mediator. Uh, I need that. I need the MSM army to start spamming Hercules Gomez. Oh man. Uh, Andrew Weavey, uh, Charlie Davies. Uh, he, what else? All these soccer talking heads who have been ignoring us for time now, pretending as though they don't see our community pretending as though they don't see our comments, our questions, uh, spewing, whatever it is that they want to spew without rebuttal, without giving anybody the opportunity to defend themselves. And, uh, I think now's the time. I think now's the time where they'll they'll listen, because I think they're realizing they haven't been listening for a long time. And, uh, that is a problem. Cause you guys know they can't stop us. Whoa. Oh, I mean, they're trying to ignore us. They are, but we'll get through eventually
Quincy Amarikwa (52:23):
we'll get through.
Quincy Amarikwa (52:26):
It's just a matter of time and it will be the results,
Quincy Amarikwa (52:32):
our community. Yeah. Connor coinci for president. Uh, Oh, get Earl on the lab. Cause we like, O'Connor also say get Earl on the line. I think there has been a rural, just start back to training with DC United. Um, you'll shout out Earl. He's been working his buns off to doing a lot of work. Um, during this quarantine, especially mans is fit, dialed in focused and ready to attack the, uh, the Orlando tournament and the rest of the season. Um, so I think they just, they had training session today was the first day of training session.
Quincy Amarikwa (53:13):
So, um,
Quincy Amarikwa (53:15):
he'll join in on the live here in the future. All so we got two, three minutes. Oh yeah. Earl said maybe next week. Uh, uh, Zuri Zuri said, please answer my questions. I'm not seeing your question. Oh, uh, Zuri ask will using a road machine help with explosive speed. It can. It just depends on the type of program that you're going through and like the speed at the speed at which you're, you're doing the road machine. If you're just doing the run machine, like consistency consistently at like a low, at a low pace, I think that's more for endurance, but you can turn it up where the resistance there and do explosive, uh, explosive circuits. So like super sets. Um, but again, it just depends on the program that you've, you've, uh, designated and set up for yourself. Uh, Sabrina asks, how do you keep up with a player when they are bigger than you? Well, you just got to break them down mentally. Then you don't have to keep up. They have to keep up with you.
Quincy Amarikwa (54:30):
And the way you learn how to break down players mentally, as you tune into the ASCA soccer pro show, every Thursday, 6:00 PM, PST 9:00 PM EST. And you download that MSL knowledge. But more importantly, uh, if you don't know, or you haven't started yet head over to perfect soccer skills.com/s S S that's the three S's of self-awareness check out that, uh, that talk I did at build Meade's camp. Uh, last year lesbians joined on one was that episode 70 last the soccer pro show and shared what his personal experience has been since listening to that, um, to that talk. So, um, uh, you can get a lot out of a short duration of time. And the MSL mentality of MSL mindset is a very condensed down, highly valuable mental software update that you can utilize to extract a lot of value from, but more importantly, contribute a lot of value to the system because we're here to overdo the bill over, deliver value.
Quincy Amarikwa (55:34):
Everybody leave every exchange, having given more than every receipt. That is the that's part of the mission here at perfect soccer, 10 million self-sufficient goal oriented, focused, disciplined individuals. And I'm happy to have you guys join in with me every single week to make that happen because you guys already know teamwork equals dream dreamwork. We've got a minute and a half year left, left, left on the live. I want to thank everybody for joining and especially all the pros who dropped in, uh, said what's up show their support and their love. Uh, Kane 23 Hampton giving me the mental, the mental emoji. Plus the flex arms are Reese puppy cups dropping nine mini head emojis increased football. I mean, you had emojis. Everybody's spending that hard. If you guys enjoyed today's let me see them. I mean your head emojis, let me know if you love today's episode, you hated it.
Quincy Amarikwa (56:28):
What you liked, what you didn't. I'm loving that everyone spam that heart button, uh, John said teamwork equals dream work. Uh, we've got a minute left here. I make sure to share this live directly on the feed post show. Um, we'll be doing, I'll be doing giveaways for those of you who are leaving your comments from what you learned from today's. Um, from today's episode in the comment section, I'll pick someone at random, send them some perfect soccer merge. So right when this is done, make sure you guys head over there, uh, leave your comment, share on your feed. Let people know what you've taken away from from today's episode. Um, tag me in that. So I reshare my, and my accounts. I appreciate everybody who's joined in your feedback is what I use to better, uh, plan for future episodes topics, right? He is and all that. And I really appreciate everybody joining in the community. So we have that said, I appreciate it. John dropping them in your head. K 23. I'm in your head, Heather. Bye everyone. See you next week. Thank you Quincy. For the live today, I learned a lot loving that everybody stay safe and I'll see you here.